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But so that I can see the comments on Facebook. So I'm doing this weird thing where I, I've got Facebook and Instagram on on my phone on one of my laptop. So let me just say hi. There we go. Beautiful. So, happy Tuesday, I super excited to be on here, I wanted to come on and talk to you guys about what we've got lined up for May, which we're calling dribblers. And feel fabulous in May, which is really cool. I'm super excited about it. I know for me, I listen to the humans that I work with, I reflect back on my experience. When I was drinking and the things I really wanted, I wanted to feel healthier, I wanted to get more time. And I wanted to feel like I had more space when life was a bit more spacious. And there's so many elements of taking a break from drinking, reducing your drinking that can really help with this. And so I thought that was going to be that's going to be the theme for this month for us. And we're going to do, we've got the great Ozzy alcohol experiment starting on the fourth of June this year. If you are on my email list, you will get access to the address earlybird discount, and and what opportunities to have a one to one coaching session with me as well if you sign up before the 24th of May. So that's a really good useful piece of information. So if you, if you want to get onto my mailing list, and you're not already, just reach out, send me a message in the DMS and I will get you added. So that you can be part of that offer. What we've got coming up is we've got on the 20, I've just been playing around with the dates. So on the 23rd of May, I've got a free webinar, which is all about how it can be really easy for us to take a break from drinking or to reduce our drinking. It's a mindset shift. And we need to play around with a few elements. In order for it to go from the place where it causes us most problems is when we're in resistance with our cause. So we have that devil on our shoulder, we've got like, good guy, bad guy. And I like to call them the the alcohol Savior rather than the wine, which a lot of people call on the wine, which but I don't think of them as a bad guy. They're just trying to help us out. And so what we want to get into are places that that little fella the alcohol, say Don't say if you're the Caped Crusader, isn't rearing with a part of us that's going I don't want to drink I want to be healthy, productive and have stopped time space and energy to all the cool things that I want to do with my life. And so what happens is they get into an argument with each other. And that argument is a willpower, it's tend to into a willpower into a resistance thing. And that resistance thing means that we get to that point where it just feels like there's we have no option like it's constantly tapping on our shoulder going, do you need wine, you need Wine, wine. And what we want to do when we're trying to drink less, what we want to do is we want to start examining some of those, those PII like conditioning that we have around alcohol, and what it gives us and so that's what we're going to do this month, we're going to spend a lot of time working on I think my methodology really is around first of all, we know new information. And then once we know new information, we feel differently about something and once we feel differently about something, then we can change our behavior and do differently. But what we do, what we tend to do in this particular area around our call is we tend to just try and jump straight into doing so we jumped straight into the I'm going to take a break and then when we find that we find that thing that difficult because we haven't done the prep work and what my one of my mentors always used to say to me is change hands in an instance is to preparation for change that can take a little bit of time. And so that's what we're gonna work on this month. So we're gonna have a free masterclass that you're all invited to come along to. I will put the link in the chat as soon as we've got it finalized on this page and and share that with you. And that's going to be really about how do we make this easy because that's the thing we always think when we take a break from drinking when we reduce our drinking, it's going to be hard. And that's what we need to change because it doesn't Have to be hard at all. It's only hard because we think it's going to be hard. Yeah. It doesn't have to be hard. It really really doesn't. But it does require mindset shifts, and it does require that we play around with some of that conditioning that we have. So first of all, I've got the masterclass a free masterclass which is on Wednesday, it'll be at seven o'clock in the evening on Melbourne Sydney time. And I think we're aligned with Queensland now as well so I could say meant Melbourne, Sydney, quick Queensland time. So that's going to be really good days. As you can see your feet in the background. Dave date is in the background. We're in Damien's office so that hence the guitars behind us at the moment because we're having our houses having a little tidy. So that's the first thing that we have in this field fabulous trip last May. The second thing that I've got and I'm so super high miles Yeah, so good to see you. And I haven't seen you for a while haven't done live for what have I truly Nice to see you. Promise I'm gonna try and be on here much more over the next month while we're doing this work. So the second thing that I've got coming up this May is I am running now I have this beautiful new program. That was the first program that I made when I qualified as a as an alcohol coach and counselor and psychotherapist. Hey, so nice to see you. I went for a swim this morning. And then once you're like swimming as well. So I just like to say that I was really proud of myself because it was super, it was kind of a little bit chilly. But it was so lovely to be there. And I got to swim with loads of other lovely ladies in the sea, which always makes me really happy. I've got distracted because I'm like, Oh, the other thing that I've got coming up which I'm going to run, yeah, I know you've I felt like that this morning, I've been a bit feeling a bit like oh, I don't really want to go out and do like outside exercise, and stuff like that. Over the last couple of days, I got my arms out of bed and went down and I was so glad to do it. I've got into habit at the moment of walking down there as well. I love that. So actually walking to the beach to have a swim. And I know I'm so privileged to live by the sea might not be for very much longer we are moving house. But for now I'm going to make the most of it absolute rest of it. In fact, that's a really good motivator, isn't it? Sorry, I'm so easily distracted. Okay, so back to feeling fabulous drinking less in May. The second thing that I've got coming up, which is going to run from the you know, I've got the vendor contract, I remember the dates. It's the week after that, let me just have a quick look on my calendar. Get them right. Sorry about that. Okay, yeah, so it's the week of the 27th. To the 31st of May, I am going to run a live Alcon reset program. And it's basically and I've never run this live before. So I'm super excited about it. And I was just listening to my five day alcohol reset program, which I currently have, as a program that people can buy. And I don't live code shares are kind of self paced. Do it yourself. Little reset. So it's the circuit breaker. So if you need a, you're feeling like alcohol has got a little bit more of a grip of you than you want to really good little one to do. And I've never coached it live. And I was thinking to myself, What could I do differently this, this may in the lead up to the great Ozzie alcohol experiment, which starts on the fourth of June this year, what can I do differently and I thought you know what I can coach that five day alcohol reset and it fits into the drink less feel fabulous program that I have for May. So what you'll get is if you join that alcohol reset live, you'll get my program so you'll get the daily videos, which are awesome. They've got heaps of knowledge, I focus on three different areas each day. And again, I can put the detail of what those different days are.
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So you get to watch that there's some brilliant journaling prompts in there, I highly recommend that if you join the group, you do the journaling prompts, because they're all about changing your mindset around alcohol so that it's much much easier for you to choose to drink less to really have that take it or leave it relationship with alcohol which I think is what you know everyone. Everyone really wants we want to be able to take it or leave it don't worry. I've just lost the Facebook guys because I've got distracted Sorry, there we go. And please feel free to put something in the comments if you are there on Facebook as well. And if anyone's got any questions about any of this, please feel free to Ask, or anything else at all about this whole idea. For me, I know it's tough at the moment out here that, you know, life's quite tough at the moment for everyone, the economy's tight, and people are feeling really overwhelmed. You know, everyone I'm speaking to is feeling really overwhelmed. And so I want to put some things in place that can help us feel less overwhelmed, feel more like we've got a plan, like we've got a structure, we know what to do next. Because you know, with all of these things with overwhelm, it's like this whole idea, overwhelmed basically means that we don't believe we, we have the resources to be able to manage a situation. And so we go into fight or flight over it. But what really, you know, the truth of the matter is that we do, we just need a plan, and we need structure. And we need to know that we put one foot in front of the other, and it will all get. And so what I'm going to do is I'll give the five day alcohol reset content and the journaling prompts, I'll have a Facebook group for community as well. And what we'll do is we'll put the videos in there too. And also the journaling prompts. And then people can journal in the Facebook group, if they want to, it'll be a private Facebook group, so no one will be able to see it outside of the group. But that's quite a nice way of doing things too, I think. But then what we're going to do in, in addition to that is every evening for those five days, I will run a small group coaching session on in on Zoom. And what we'll do is we'll then practice to me, the key components to changing your relationship with alcohol is learning how to be with big emotions, like stress and frustration or resentment. And also joy and happiness, sometimes, you know, and even sometimes the idea of time can be quite foreboding, I don't know if any of you have noticed that. But I have probably I'd say half my clients want more time. The other half of my clients are terrified of too much time, because when you got too much time and nothing to do say, oh, you know what might happen then. So there's always so much interesting self development, work to be done together, to help us create spaciousness, create a sense of safety inside ourselves. So we feel really secure. That, you know, being in our own company isn't a scary thing that actually being with our emotions isn't something that we want to escape from or numb from. And this is a journey, right? So in order to create more space in order to live more authentically, in order to be a better example to our children, and able to be a bit of friends a bit of whatever. And I'm not saying better in that way as like, we were not good before, because of course we are. But we find that outcome does tend to sort of monopolize our brain doesn't get a little bit, especially when it starts to feel like it's getting a little bit out of control. And by that I don't mean anything that's sort of sinister, I just mean that, you know, we're drinking more than we wanted to drink. And we might set out in the evening not to drink at all and find that we've we've, suddenly we're proving ourselves a glass of wine, and we don't really know why. And so that's what we're going to do as part of the five day alcohol reset, we're really going to look into some of those routines and rituals, we're gonna get some awareness and knowledge about not only we're going to learn about the substance and what it does to us, and why we might feel the way that we do about it, and how we can get into this whole resistance piece with it, where we're in willpower, how to get rid of that. So it can feel just so much easier without so much less like we're trying and doing something hard. Because my question is always like, what if it was easy, and it really can be, but it requires a mindset shift. And that's what I want to show you guys, really as part of the masterclass. And then also, the five day alcohol reset as well. So in the five day alcohol reset every evening, we'll do a meditation, grounding meditation. And we're also do some work on thoughts and feelings. So being identify able to identify our feelings, we'll also look at putting together a scaffolding to help us have other tools in our toolbox. Rather than just having alcohol is the one way that we know to relieve our stress quickly. There's so many other things that we can do. That means that we can, you know, have more time be more present, all the things that we want to be because at the end of the day as human beings, one toughest day we want to be we want to be loved, we want to feel safe, and we want to feel like we're doing you know, we're doing okay, in our you know, our one precious life that we've got here. And I was very much reflecting myself on, you know, I'm 50 this year. I turned 51 In July, and I was thinking my husband was talking about we were talking about losing moving a I'm house moving from our house and buying somewhere, buying somewhere a bit smaller in a bit different area. Try and save a bit of money on the mortgage and you know have a bit more, have a bit more, a bit less stress in our lives around paying that. And he was talking about, Oh, where do we want to be in 10 years time and I was thinking God, my dad passed away at 62. And I'm 50 Turning 51 This year, that's 10 years until he passed away. And I thought, You know what, I, my kids are only what 13 and 15. And I want to make sure that I'm around for them. And I want to make sure that I'm vibrant and able to support them. And I still want to be working, I still want to I want to go traveling, I have all these things I want to do, I don't want to, I don't want to I don't want my life to be finished at 6061. So I think you know, for me, again, it's this, you know, helping ourselves be healthier, helping prolong our longevity so that we can live, you know, really productive and fruitful lives as we you know, as we move into the latter part of our lives, and we've got menopause and perimenopause and all the different pieces, you know that that really does impact our core really impacts those things. So if we can try and cut down what we're drinking, if not, you know, take a longer break from it. And that's the thing that I want to talk to you about with these programs that I'm running this month. And something that's really important around the alcohol experiment itself as well is these are not stop drinking programs. These are for you wherever you are with your relationship with alcohol. Now I do have a program which I run for people after they've done the experiment, if they want to carry on not drinking for a longer period of time, that was what I chose to do. But again, it's very much that's my choice. I did that because it was easier for me to do that. And I had got to a place where I no longer felt that alcohol had anything to give me. And so for me, it became that it was it was literally I could take it or leave it and I chose to leave it because it wasn't doing anything for me didn't have any benefit to me anymore, which was really surprising because I'm doing absolutely used to love drinking my wine and and thought it was very much part of my identity. So don't for a minute think that I am different to you in any way. Because I really am not. But it is possible to get to a place where you you don't see any benefit at all from alcohol. So I just want to say that because often my clients like, is that true? Really? Do you really never ever have a craving? And I'm like, No, I don't. Sometimes I might think I'd like to escape this would be nice if I could just get a little bit further about that. But there are other things that we can do right? To enable us to feel safe and secure in our experience of life other than drinking alcohol. But that's not what these programs are about. So me for me. And Jim, for me, it's not about that. If after the alcohol experiment, again, I won't be trying to persuade anyone to not drink. That's not the purpose of it, what it's about. And the reason why and the reason why I'm so passionate about this is because that's how I how I joined the alcohol experiment, because I would never have joined a stop drinking group.
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I reason I joined the alcohol experiment back when before I stopped drinking was because it was an experiment, it was just that and it was no pressure, no judgment. And it was all about just dipping your toe in learning some information. And you know, at the end of the day, there's absolutely coach right through to you know, yes, if you want to take another 30 days off another 60 days off another 100 days off. But also, if you just want to moderate, I work with you at the end of the actual experiment around that as well. We put in a whole load of non negotiables. And we work through what a lengthening plan might be around that. So we do that at the end of the output experiment as well. And then, you know, for some people, it's just a little break and they take a break and then they go back to life as normal. And you know, hopefully as a result of the experiment, in fact, it's not really hopefully I know that as a result of all of the work we do here. When we change when we grow our awareness around our own patterns of behavior, our own reasons for doing things triggers, the reasons why we feel that we want to escape from our experience of the world, or we want to enhance our experience of the world. We can never unlearn those things and so is always going to change our relationship with alcohol, wherever and however we want that to be Yeah. So I just want to really reassure you that nothing that I do nothing that I teach is about for stopping drinking, the only program that I have, which is for people who want to be alcohol free longer term is my beer, the lighthouse membership program, which people tend to come into, after they've done one to one coaching with me, or after they've done 30 days of the alcohol experiment, and they've decided that that's the route they want to go down. But you really need to know that whilst I am passionate about choosing to be alcohol free and removing the stigma from that, that is absolutely not the purpose of my courses. The purpose of most all of the courses that I do are to increase our awareness. It's never about abstinence, or I was just talking. One of the ladies on my be the lighthouse group had a slip up over the weekend, we call them data points in my world. And I say to them data points for is just something we haven't learned to do yet some emotion, some experience that we haven't learned to manage without alcohol yet, it's a it's a really great piece of learning for us. And that's how we treat them. And it's the same in the alcohol experiment. Yes, the intention is to stop drinking for 30 days. And you know that in an ideal world, that's what people are going to do. And same with the five day alcohol reset. But what I always insist, and people always find this really strange when I say this is say, if you have a data point, don't not come to the rest of the program. You know, literally that's what the program is here for. If we knew how to do it, we wouldn't be having we weren't we wouldn't be doing a program. I mean, I'm noticing my eyes are doing this really. I used to when I was training under Gable, Marty, and the compassionate Inquiry Group, which I did this this last year, finished in February, with the year long training that I did. We used to meet with them the group that I was with, and do practice sessions of working in the compassionate inquiry method. And everyone always used to laugh because my eyes are like, would you call it like action round you have action, remember that? Nothing I can do about it, we're afraid. So I just try and own it. So I just wanted to say so basically, I've got three things coming up the Great Aussie output experiment, which will be you get 30 days worth of video learning content again. So you can learn new things so that you can feel differently about something so that you can do differently, right. So our behavior changes. That will start on the fourth of June, and will run through I think it's to third July, which is my best day. I was trying to work out a way I could get it good allowed on my birthday with that I thought you know what, let's just have fun, and have it land or MOBA don't really have a good celebration at the end of those 30 days. But again, we're celebrating awareness, not abstinence, it's really, really important message that I want you to take away from this. I will I'm just at the moment on my website, and everywhere, just building all of these programs, so that they're up and running. And as soon as I have the links, I will send them to you all. But in the alcohol experiment, what you get is you get the videos, you get the journaling prompts, you get the Facebook community, and you get a zoom call every single night. I usually do them at 7pm on a weeknight, and usually six I think was 630 at the weekend. And the you don't have to be there for every single one. But people find it really useful. And again, what we do and it will be the same in the five day outdoor reset is that we we start with grounding meditation. And so that's really about learning to identify our emotions and how we're feeling and where we notice that in our body. And for many of us women and neurodivergent. Folks, we find that really difficult because a lot of us have pushed down our needs and our feelings for a very long time. If any of you have ever dieted had restricted eating. And again, if you're neurodivergent, or even if just being a woman in society, push down your needs, we find it quite difficult to identify what's happening for us physically, and emotionally. And so we do some training around that because it's a really important part. We put together a scaffolding of practices toolbox of resources so that we can support ourselves through a 30 day break or a five day break. And then in addition to that, we work on every single belief that we have about alcohol. Every single belief that we hold consciously as a society around alcohol, like it relaxes us, it helps us sleep. It makes us more fun. It makes us more sociable. Does it is there every single belief that we have is actually untrue but we have to work on it in very specific way because there's no good rating our brain and saying because this is what people do. They're like I had a slip up and I didn't want to drink and I had a drink and I'm so what I mean I'm such a loser. So we've none of that talk. In my groups, we are massively, massively authentic and genuine. And we have a little bit of fun as well. But what we, what we don't do is we don't probate ourselves, we don't go to war with ourselves, there's so much of that going on. In a society, we what we are learning to do is create a safe space inside ourselves in order for us to be with our big emotions, be with our stress, be with our resentment, be with our frustration, G with our joy, be with our happiness, and want to be present for it. All right. So that's what we do in the beginning, we do the meditations. And then we do take every single belief that we have around alcohol, and we work that through in a particular way. So that because what happens is our unconscious brain believes some of these things about alcohol, like, you know, it makes us more fun and more sociable. And it's better to have that when we go out for a drink. If we don't have it, we're going to be party pips, you know, all these beliefs that we hold, we have to unpick them in a certain way, because the brain can't hold on to very unusual for brain to be able to hold on to two competing beliefs. And so what we have to do is we have to get the brain to believe that this new thought or idea, ie, that alcohol actually increases our anxiety rather than reduces it, we have to present it with facts and information, we have to challenge it and really get the unconscious part of our brain to believe that it's true. And that's what we do throughout the alcohol experiment every single day we come in, and we work together to come up with what's the belief that we're going to work on today. And again, you don't have to come every single day, but the opportunity is there. And the reason that my my course is the price it is and the way it is because I think it's absolutely fundamental, that we in community that we're sharing with other people, that we get that opportunity to do that really strong thought work that's very, very difficult to do on our own. And we get to be around other people and realize that just because somebody might be having a few little struggles with our code doesn't mean that they're not one of the coolest, most intelligent, fun, interesting human beings exactly like us. So I invite you to join me, I invite you to join me for the five days and I invite you to join me for the 30 days. And I invite you to join me for the free one day webinar as well. This is what's going to be happening over May in the lead up to June for the greater seattle experiment. If you've got any questions at all, I'd love to hear what they are. Please feel free to reach out to me send me a DM and I will put all the links to everything that we've got coming up in this it on Instagram and on Facebook over the next few days while I just get everything sorted out there. Thank you so much for joining me here today. I'm so delighted to be here with you and talk to you about this such exciting exciting program of events for us to drink less and feel fabulous this May. Alright my darlings Take care. Bye bye
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